LIFEIN THE REARVIEW MIRROR

My philosophy of life is, “You are born, you die and in between you do something.” While doing that something, you learn something. My posts on this Blog are not attempting to change anybody’s mind. I know I can’t do that, but maybe after my seven decades plus of life experience, I can shed some experiential light on another way to think. Life gives us something to do and I believe a big chunk of my life’s something is giving others something to think about. Think about that.







Tuesday, June 10, 2014

THINKING ABOUT SEX


Those thoughts struck me when hearing media reaction to the May 23, 2104 U.C. Santa Barbara killings.

The media got an early Christmas (oops! Holiday) gift. The "control everything" element of our society now got to rant not only over their favorite control--gun control, but since this was a multi-weapon attack, they could also throw in knife control and car control. If they were really on a role, since the shooter, (who should get no name recognition. I'll just call him PL for Pant Load), was mixed race, they could also go for racism. These, as it turns out, were not enough for the 24/7 news cycle so some of the more creative media folks came up with---Objectification of Women.

Objectification in this case meant making women no more than sex objects. It would seem that PL snuffed out a number of lives because he had no luck with the ladies, even though he was not bad looking, was rich, drove a Beemer and was a sophomore in college, had never even kissed a girl (which if I remember is "first base") much less circled the bases. (Can you image what his personality must have been like for a rich college kid to spend all those years on the bench?)

The discussion of objectification of women got me thinking, and the more I thought the more confused I got. Is this strictly a Western phenomenon?

Looking at the man/women relationship from a macro viewpoint. Women, it is widely known, are a critical element in the continuation of the human race. So therefore, nature gave them things that would attract a male. So far so good, but then nature gave the male the greater sex drive. So, we have the women decked out to attract the male who is already predisposed to be "attracted." Seems like a waste of something.

Why are women in the west most often seen in the malls, schools and on casual Fridays at work in tight Jeans or short skirts always with some degree of "scoop" around the neck obviously designed to catch the already very easily catchable male eye? On the beach we have women wearing two band aids and a wedgie. On TV shows we see this beautiful, intelligent lawyer lady pleading her case in front of the Supreme Court wearing clothes designed by Larry Flynt. (Not that I'm complaining, I'm just saying.)

The guys, on the other hand, who I assume the women are ultimately dressing to attract, are walking around in relaxed Jeans (often times half way down their butt, exposing sexy patterned boxer shorts) and tee shirts with beer sayings on them. Wouldn’t it make more sense, in the grand scheme of human population growth, for the males to be decked out in thongs and halter tops screaming "take me, take me."and the women wearing fashionable moo moos?

To show we are all not one world, let's take a look at the other end of the spectrum. Here are some rules for Muslim women:

       You must lower your gaze from the bodies and faces of men.
  • You must not bend, lift, carry and otherwise move in manners and places where men will see the outlines of your body through your clothes.
  • You must not be alone with a non-mahram (non family) man at any time in private.
  • You must not go out for meals even in public alone with men, be friends with them, or otherwise place yourself in a situation where indecent thoughts and desires may develop.
  • You must not hug, hold hands with, or otherwise touch men.
  • You must not project your voice in a manner that might be arousing to men.

With all of that, the Muslim population growth rate is 1.8% per year with the rest of the world trailing at 1.12%, and the Muslim ladies are walking around following those rules draped in a black sheet with eye holes cut out. I wonder how much "objectifying" is done under those conditions?


I am not making any excuses for sexual harassment, or worse. "No" means"no," but I really have to wonder when I look around how upset some women are at being objectified? "I'll do anything I want and dress any way I want. It's up to you to control yourself. " That philosophy works on 99% of the male population. Then there is PL.   

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